oh, sorry, one more quick thing. I messed up likely because I politely asked today if she could delay filing the petition. I didn't think that was anti-DB, but it was just something I wanted to ask her to do. She said "no, i've come to terms with my decision and nothing's going to change".
So...I know that people have said that in the past on this board and things may have changed...but I don't see that happening as I don't have regular contact with her and there are no kids involved.
Just looking for some sign of her softening or changing the trajectory or anything I can control to help her notice my changes.
