NO ONE offered to lend or give us any money when the sh!! hit the fan for us.
We did not ask for a loan or gift.
My fil is a self made millionaire. (btw, MIL and FIL divorced long ago.)
H and I don't believe FIL "owes" us HIS hard money.
I admit it entered my mind that "it sure would be nice if we had it now when we need it instead of after FIL passes away" BUT
I put the STOP SIGN there, b/c it is not ours now, or even ours to expect. He can give it all away now or at death. We are Not "ENTITLED".
We dropped the ball. Her illness was longer than expected and we did not pace ourselves financially b/c we thought she would only live a few months but she lasted 20 months. It's how it went.
We could say that we suffered more financially b/c of that and so,
"life is unfair" OR
we can be grateful the chemo helped prolong her life so much.
CHOOSE how you view the same event, and your life changes.
(& like I say, if you want to whine about "unfair", check out AFRICA)
So We sold a car for a smaller one, cashed in a retirement account to pay off the state, and now we're paying the IRS off ourselves...all for an innocent mistake in a very difficult time for us.
AND It is still really a strain on us, But WE are "OUR family"
not our parents and siblings. They are our family of origin.
They're sympathetic...but not sending checks. Didn't expect them to do so either.
My guess is, You have some co-dependency issues & toxic forms of interaction that contribute to your depression, imo
and to your w's opinion of you and you of yourself...and them of you.
Too much blame being assigned. And for sure there are too many people in this marriage.
Are you getting IC for you?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
