anyone have any suggestions on what reasonable goals would be for that one? I am nervous - and to some degree expect W to continue to let the anger out.
My goal would be to be present, to be quiet, to listen and not be defensive. These are all things I've had to really work on. And as 25 says, not be thinking about what you're going to say next. Silences in conversations were scary, I always thought I had to have the right answer immediately. Now I'm more comfortable with stopping and thinking before I talk, most of the time.
Do you know how your body reacts when you start to get angry or defensive or fearful? Do you hold your breath, get a tight feeling in your chest, tension in your shoulders or pain in your gut? If you can pinpoint these and remember to breathe and relax when that happens it can really help head off negative reactions.
Good luck!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
