"Glad I did, although you are probably going to want to put your walking shoes back on..."
Not at all Cat and glad you stopped by.
"How has that changed now, other than you not allowing it? Do you still have the instinct to respond badly?"
Yes I still have those instincts but we are working them out in IC. It has changed in the fact that I am aware of how wrong it was. And yes I am not allowing the behavior at this point. My understanding is that by been aware of them that they will in time be substituted with new and acceptable behavior. If that makes sense.
"And what does that say about controlling tendencies?"
I agree to being controlling. It really has been a problem for me. I never really paid attention to how much I nagged and critized her to be who I wanted her to be.
"Or have you really changed the behavior?"
I have changed the behavior externally. Meaning I am not criticizing or nagging at home or at work. But it is still in there. It is something that needs more work.
You asked that I start over. So I will.
I would ask the genie these instead:
1- to stop getting angry when I feel disrespected. 2- to stop getting angry when I feel rejected 3- that new and acceptable behaviors become a true part of myself and who I am.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
