I can guarantee you, that there is nothing more non-erotic than a man who can not lead and devour a woman in bed.
You're wife isn't going to take any initiative, until you demonstrate what the initiative looks like.
You need to get rid of your own hang-ups and insecurities, take control of your masculine sexuality, own it, put it on, suit up in it - and then lovingly, kindly, but firmly and with purpose, DO HER.
And you must do her first! You told her you needed some help? Goodness me. Read up on the differences between men and women’s sexuality. I can promise you, after a long luxurious love play, after you’ve pleasured and loved her, she’s going to dying to return the intimacy.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
