Wife Left Part 3

[CO1978]

I understand what I need to change. I got to stop trusting my gut instinct and really think before I act.

I had said this to her before. My gut instinct is what made me such a great leader in the military. I always had to react and make decisions quickly or people could have died, whether they were right or wrong. I could deal with the consequences of my actions later.

Well marriage is completely different. I need to stop and think, make a decision, stop and think about decision, then act. It takes getting used to, and she understands this about me now.

She talked to her boss at work all about what was going on, because her boss went threw same exact thing with her husband. I mean same EXACT thing. My W didn't say a thing to her boss about what was going on but everything her boss would ask my W, my W said "yeah that's my H!" or "yeah that happened to him!" My W realized exactly what I was going through, but she said she realized it too late for her to want to change the marriage. Her boss left her husband for 6 months and went back and said things are great now. When my W told her boss she left, her boss was shocked.

I am not just trying to appear different I am changing, slowly, with some stumbles, but I am getting better. I think I "try" too hard in front of her so she sees it. Other people who don't know of my situation, but know me have said to friends of mine they have noticed changes in me.

No, I know I am not ready to get back together, and I told her that. I asked her if we could continue counseling together to see if we could get to a point were we can work on things.

Well she isn't going to do that, so yes it is up to me to continue to go alone.