Glad I did, although you are probably going to want to put your walking shoes back on...
After reading your last post, I honestly don't see a very different person than who was posting in August. (Yes, I went back to your first thread).
1. You want your W to be who she was 5 or 6 years ago.
How much has she really changed? Other than finally having enough backbone to not put up with your abusive behavior anymore?
To finally do what you repeatedly asked her to do?
2. A time machine to change your responses...
Hard if you don't really understand what caused those responses in the first place and please don't tell me it was her behavior...
There is/was something inside of you that made it ok with you to allow yourself to respond very badly when you were angry.
Those responses, as recently as last summer, are what has gotten you here.
How has that changed now, other than you not allowing it? Do you still have the instinct to respond badly?
Are you just responding differently because you got the result that you asked for but didn't really want and are feeling guilty?
Or have you really changed the behavior?
3. Stopping fears about the future.
What fears? How can you stop them if you can't even define them?
And what does that say about controlling tendencies?
Rick,
Nothing is set in stone, nothing you can do is going to make the past different than it was and nothing you do is going to make the future so secure that there is nothing to be afraid of.
Those are cold hard facts of life.
So let's try it again.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
