Housework is the worst. But I do like having a clean and organized house. And H is obsessive about order.
When we first got M, H was so against getting a cleaning person. But I did it anyways. The first time he came home and saw how well the lady cleaned, and he saw all his clothes washed and folded, and the spotless kitchen, etc., he just could not complain.
Yet, it took him YEARS to acknowledge that for the sake of our marriage and quality of life, we NEEDED a cleaning person since we were both working full time.
I think it's worth the investment, for yourself and your marriage. Like 25 says, you just cannot do it all...
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D