Never thought I'd be here........part 8

[25yearsmlc]

rick's probably right Crimson...

let her take the iniative. If she doesn't, or seems to be waiting for you or if the mc starts up with you...

you can keep in mind that you want (in no particular order)

1) her to be heard so you KNOW exactly what she's saying she wants/needs--which means full eye contact when she speaks OR when you speak to her; and no interrupting and no "planning your next comment WHILE she's still talking"...which a lot of us do...

2) you have changed for real (maybe even thank her for being the catalyst b/c unfortunately that is what it took) and you are a better, happier man for it;

and

3) marriage to you now & "From this day forward"
WOULD BE BETTER and Different...

but you understand that it would take time for her to believe that...

and then express zero expectations...


Food for thought. Others should weigh in b/c that's just my first reaction and hey, it's your life.

Good interaction with your parents, sounds like. H's underestimate the value of standing up FOR their w's with their families.

I'm meeting my son's "Special" woman next week. Am thinking they'll marry, which will make ME a mother in law.

Already know the young woman is striking looking, smart and funny. Also atheist and very different politically...

I bet we won't be bored!

But here's my real point.

IF this young woman looks at my son the way a woman in love does,

if she "gets" my son, and appreciates him for who he is NOW and who he can become, then

I'm a happy mama.