Hopefully work will be a good distraction for you.....
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M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
So I actually have something to report. Not sure how to take it.
Message from P comes in to my work.
P-Have you decided what you're doing about Mexico? (in reference to the trip that was supposed to be our destination wedding/honeymoon that I am paying off in monthly installments { I pay wedding, he pays mortage, gas, insurance ... etc. for those of you who do not know my sitch})
Me-There's not much to 'decide'. Try as I might, I am unable to transfer the trip to another party, nor can one of my friends even just get her own room as the resort is completely sold out because it's Easter Weekend. I will probably go, mind you with all the Canadian's running into trouble down there lately, I'm a bit nervous. But there is no way I'm wasting all that money. Besides, two weeks of cocktails, yummy food and bikinis and sun does the body good
P-well, not sure yet. I will see if I will go. Let me get home and I will decide then
Me-K. Sounds fair. Have a good nite P
P-Good day to you (P writes very formally as English is his second language lol)
So obviously there is nothing 'to do' with this. But weird eh? Gives me a bit of hope he isn't going to be a complete A-h0le to me when he gets home. All I want is peace and to be treated with respect. I have glimmers of hope of that being a possibility.
And I actually think that the trip presents you with a GREAT opportunity to focus on YOU and pamper YOURSELF.
You know the sun itself will make you feel better.
Plan it ahead as if you are going ALONE. Have NO EXPECTATIONS that P is coming.
I think you might actually have a better time if you go alone - IF YOU CHOOSE TO.
Some ideas: - bring books to read that you always wished you had time to tackle
- create a playlist (or lists) of music you REALLY enjoy to bring along and enjoy. Maybe one playlist for different moods - inspirational, tranquil, happy, etc.
- Think of what kinds of exercise you enjoy. This will be the perfect opportunity to practice them.
- start a new hobby while there - crosswords, sudoku, knitting, etc. Something you can bring with you.
- If you like learning languages, practice some Spanish before leaving and take this trip as a chance to really learn the language and also meet people! Most Mexicans are friendly by nature and like tourists.
- I don't know about what part of Mexico you are going to , but learn about that place - if you like sightseeing or history, you can really learn about the culture.
- As for the food and drinks, do I really have to point out the pluses there?
- Journal, write while enjoying the sun / beach / pool. Work on getting in touch with who you really are. Do you know? Figure out what you want, work on establishing some goals and making a GAL plan for when you get back home.
The key is to PLAN beforehand and to make this trip an AMAZING EXPERIENCE FOR YOURSELF!
BTW - I am Mexican, so if you need any tips, hit me up. I'll be happy to share and help in any way.
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
111- I second what keep_going said above. Take the time and enjoy yourself on this trip! Plan ahead! Don't worry about P's decision to go or not to go. Don't react if he shows interest in going. If he goes, great. If not, great. I think you will actually enjoy yourself much more if he DOESN'T go.
plan as if he is not coming. I sure wish you could reach out to more peeps in your world b/c
I seriously doubt NONE of them can go in lieu of him...but One11,
read nothing into his going if he does. Frankly I'm stunned at the gall it takes for him to assume he can if he wants...or not...
as if it's all up to him, and you have no choice.
You do not OWE it to him regardless of what your original deal was. That kind of changed when he said he wanted you out of his life...
Puuuhhhllllleeeeaaaasssseeee...
More importantly, Have fun now AND then, and get your real self back asap!!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
