MLC or Passive Aggressive or Narcissism

[AntoniaB]

Side note: after he left me for OW, a week later he went on a trip out west to meet 2 male friends. He had told me he was going and was going to stop at my house on the way to the airport I guess to say goodbye. I never responded to the email and I made sure I was out of the house when he would have driven by. I never contacted him. I thought, why should I? He betrayed me. Let OW calm him down before he flies.

After he got back, maybe a week or so later, he ended up confronting me angry as could be that I did not see him or speak to him before he flew. He said "do you have any idea how hard that was for me to get myself to the airport, to find parking, alone, to get into the building, to get on that plane, to change planes midwest, and you didn't care?"

A year after getting with OW, he made a point to tell me that he had flown to Spain with her. That he did it without an itinerary, that they just got on a plane and flew and I guess made it up as they went along. Despite the fact that it was SO out of line to tell me all this, he could not contain himself. He used to use my "not flying" as a MAJOR REASON why he had to leave me for her. Because, he said, SHE would just go anywhere alone, no problem, and she was "only 27" and here I was 42 and couldn't do what she did.

I don't know why this flying thing is a major issue with him post-breakup, but it shows a lot of this P-A stuff.