I am judgmental too often and still very angry with my H. Still critical and controlling. And whatever I resist PERSISTS.
Maybe I'll learn eventually....
BM, I think you are right - feelings of unworthiness seem to preoccupy our Hs.
Accuray has posted insightfully on this point too. Just not sure there's much we can do beyond applauding the positives and then, because they feel so unworthy, they're unlikely to believe us or value our assessments.
How good would it be to see some evidence that our changes are resulting in something good for our spouses as well as for us????
