Your thread continues to resonate with me. All my friends tell me I look years younger since my xh left me . . . the enduring anxiety has taken longer to go, but it is noticeably better when I have no contact,
And they CANNOT be wrong. It just doesn't enter into their world. Even when the fact are presented, even when they are very bright [I think highly intelligent PAs are a particular menace!] They have got it right. . . . and the rest of us don't understand the real situation.
And I agree admitting their faults is more than they can do. We used to have a family joke game in which we had to suggest the thing that the person was least likely to say, and guess what for my xh it was 'I could be wrong on this . . . . ' And he sort of laughed, but it was quite uneasy. They do not see this huge side of themselves at all. A
