My story, need help before I mess everything up.

[Denton]

Not a huge deal, but as the end of your #2216892 post above, your anger came through loud and clear. That is OK to vent your anger here, it is certainly one of the emotions you will have to go through. As you start your next post you indicate that you've been biting your tongue and that is good.

Be careful where you let your anger (and grief) out... and do your best not hold onto that stuff... you loved this woman once, and you likely weren't mistaken to do so... let it out... and let it go... this is a good place to do it, but after a while, it may start to get old and we will likely encourage and support you to work through it...

Thanks for replying as usual! I've deliberetly been trying to avoid my anger every week and I've noticed that it has become less and less every Sunday when we talk. I was purely venting on here and is not something I would say to my W, but I needed to say it somewhere. My anger was also one of my motivations to start kickboxing again. Earlier on yesterday I had a bit of a revelation and realised that perhaps I had been angrier for the last 8-9 years then I thought I had, now I've had time on my own to compare the contrast and having lost my temper with D3 earlier I sought of came to see that I've been really angry, not shouting anger but real pent up frustration, anger and stress. In fact my anger through jealousy and the EA probably was what pushed her away from me as it added on to the anger from before.

Your second post from today had a lot of detail... not a huge deal, but eventually the details won't have as much importance to you... that's generally a good indicator you've detached...

To help you with that, I won't dissect that post... I will just point out there was a lot of focus on her and a lot of words...

Yeah, I guess because I'm still very new to this I'm just looking for feedback that I'm doing the right thing or making any obvious mistakes that I haven't seen yet.

Thanks