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It's all about what they want and when they want it. Appearances mean everything to them and they want us to play along and oh, yes, be on your "ps" and "qs"...when they are nice, they most likely want something. At least, that is what I have discovered w/my xh.


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I was trying to figure out what set my H off on this talking spree yesterday. And I realized one of the ladies who came over to the class held at my house works with my H. I didn't know this, it is a big guild.

She spoke highly of him when she realized the connection. She is a liitle older than us and about to retire from civil service. As soon as I heard she worked with my H I went to the 3 close friends who were in the class and asked them to not say anything about the situation during the class.

That morning I got my H to come and say Hi to the lady he works with. I think might have really made him think about the long term part that people will know about our personal lives and see he/we aren't perfect.

I want to thank all of you for sharing your thoughts with me. It helps so much.

I am working really hard on my getting back into comfortably detached. He did a good job of upsetting me last night. I got very little sleep. I was sick to my stomach and tired all day. My friends at the quilting class today wondered why I was so quiet.

I am off my game, need to get more clarity. Guess time for some long walks!