I wonder if had you found out about the OM through a different source if you might be feeling differently about it now. Maybe the unexpected visitor sharing the news had some sort of balancing effect on the news. Regardless, you seem to be handling the news really well.
You know, I'm not sure. Earlier on in our difficulties, before DB and when I was still very much trying to mind read, I figured it would be EASIER for me to understand if there in fact WAS someone else. Perhaps that somehow prepared me. Fact of the matter is things had been on this trajectory for so long that I would have been lying to myself to believe this wasn't at least a POSSIBILITY.
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
