W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[Snowman]

25yearsmlc-Thanks, it helps sometimes when you share what you went through as I guess it just makes it more real for me like I'm sharing with someone that understands.

That is funny your say that you wish you could be in my head because I was thinking the same thing today as far as wanting you to be in my head or there when I interact with my W.

The worst is her leaving you for OM, telling you she never loved you, son is not yours, she lies and says you beat her, others believe her, she files for divorce and wants it all and tells everyone you stank in bed too...

As far as I know she is leaving me for OM but I stopped trying to figure it out. She did day she doesn't love me and even one time told me she f'ing hates me and said she doesn't love me and is not physically attracted to me (that one hurt). She has lied to me numerous times but not about beating and I have no idea what she is really saying to others and I don't care. She might be saying I stank in bed for all I know but oh well.

I know it is not the worst and she is being reasonable with me on things so I get your point.

I agree my pain or feelings fog it up. I'm trying to stay the course.

I can tell you the control thing is a family issue for sure. My whole family was together this evening for dinner and we outwardly joked about my mother who just turned the lights off. She always harps on us to turn the lights on and controls the thermostat and many other things. I know those sound petty but all of us know my mother is always asking questions to the nth degree or tries to control things and us siblings know that we all got some of the control from her. My own BILs know it and we outwardly joke about it. I'm not blaming my mother I'm just telling you this so you know where the habits may of come from.

Anyway, I'm doing fine as I'm learning to detach even when I slip up. I'm not hurt nearly as bad as months ago. It gets me for a moment but then I post here partially to clear my emotions and to get good feedback from everyone. Thanks for the support and guidance .