Our story

[2thepoint]

"After my visitor had left and I sat down to think, I was actually kind of surprised - pleasantly - by my own detachment. Hearing that she was showing up to someplace she'd know her family would see her with another dude would be something you'd THINK would send me through the roof. But it didn't. I realized that it may, or then again may not, mean anything. And even if it DID mean something - if something was going on - there's nothing I can do about it right now. If there is, it's frankly not WHOLLY inconsistent with where her family thinks her mental state is; and I know from MWD's books and from reading the boards here that it's not going to last."

"I can't affect it now; it doesn't HAVE to affect me while I attend to my own life right now, and if we get our chance to reconcile down the road, it doesn't HAVE to stand in the way unless we let it."

Well, well! Sounds like you've got that detachment thing down pat! Good for you!

I wonder if had you found out about the OM through a different source if you might be feeling differently about it now. Maybe the unexpected visitor sharing the news had some sort of balancing effect on the news. Regardless, you seem to be handling the news really well.

Bravo!

"I can't affect it now; it doesn't HAVE to affect me while I attend to my own life right now, and if we get our chance to reconcile down the road, it doesn't HAVE to stand in the way unless we let it."

I really like this ^^^^^!!