Val, many of us have the same feelings, else we would have signed the papers long ago. I find it odd that many aspects of my sitch parallels your posts. Odd b/c we have different backgrounds and ages. I guess it just proves that people are people with more similarities than differences.
A good friend asked me the other day what “moving on” meant to me. I’ve been mulling that over. I think when I can remember the positives of our marriage amidst all of the negatives and control attempts spewing forth and I can use that memory to frame the negatives, I will have moved on. I remember a time when STBX and I just clicked. We were as much as one person as two people could hope to be and that is what I will remember of us. That is the positive I choose to remember. I am not there yet. It is something for me to work on.
I do know I deserve the positives. Having achieved and maintained for a time a mutually supportive marital relationship I know it can be done. I will accomplish it again when I am ready. So will you.
You are getting stronger each day. Try not to over think it. You’ll press Send when you are ready.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
