Good to hear from you K! Would love to hear an update on what's going on in your part of the world and with your wonderful children and husband. We miss you lots friend!
You're right. I'm glad I know his LL and can do things to feed his love tank. He's never heard of LL's, he's never heard of any kind of R building idea because he refuses to. He hates to read, doesn't want to have any kind of R talk, and that is that. I either take it or leave it. So......I take it. My tank is not filled, not even a little, but that is what I chose versus being alone.
Like I said, no one said life was supposed to be great. Ok is better than bad and I'll stay with that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
How off is it that Gabe was talking to a childhood friend on the phone tonight and I had this feeling that I should stay very quiet so my presence was not known by his friend. I felt like it would be embarrassing to him. Strange feeling. Not sure what to make of that.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Doesn't sound like it was anything as obvious as him saying something to you or you'd be rightly pissed.
So maybe it is more with you being uncertain whether he's told the friend you are back together? And wondering what he told people (i.e. does he just say you're back together or that he moved back in)?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
So, because of your assumptions, both that he told everyone you guys split up and that he hasn't told them you are back together, you feel like it would be awkward for them to hear a woman's voice in the background?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Exactly. I feel like it's all a deep, dark secret and he wants to portray himself to the world as single. Of course, I think he considers himself that way. I just don't matter to him like he matters to me.
That's my fault, not his. Like I've said before, I have to learn to put it aside and do what is best for survival. Life is not necessarily happy, it just is.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
No you don't, Mish. None of us matter to a significant other in the same exact way. Have you read How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It" Men often express caring in different ways than women. A man often thinks life is grand while at the same time his wife is thinking "OMG, this is it?" You don't know what he thinks, you are throwing your own insecure interpretations on whatever he does. Now, that's also understandable when you've been betrayed and he doesn't want to discuss it. How do you get past that? If you want to stay together something has to give. It's not just "life [censored], live with it" That's no way to live. You aren't a mind reader, so stop believing you are! you have to realize that your thoughts are yours and not necessarily correct. It's a start. Catch yourself when you're doing this and say "STOP!" It's not helping you to let these unproven thoughts run away with you.
