Wife Left Part 3

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Weekend is going well. Its a 3 day weekend for me, so I have S.

As for the MC session back on the 18th. W said said things that hurt me, and would hurt anyone no matter how much detaching you think you did.

What it came down to is she is convinced she has absolutely no feelings for me. She wants a divorce so she can "get away" from me, and the last 7 years meant nothing.

When W made statement she didn't want to hurt me, counselor said "You do have feelings for him" she got mad and continued to say, "No I don't!"

She threw everything back at me (no surprise) that I said or did during the separation saying that by me trying to stop the divorce I was being controlling.

She didn't want to listen to anything the counselor had to say, especially when he said all we needed was time to heal. She said she was afraid my changes wouldn't last, and didn't want to hear that there is a good chance that they would.

At the end of the session I agreed to "give up" and not stand in her way for her to get her divorce. I told her she can come over and we can split our assets and get on with the divorce.

Nothing that was said was a "Shock" as so many have posted similar things from their WAS, and I was well prepared for it.

After the session I pretty much blew her off, I was so angry. I knew inside I wasn't giving up, but no matter what I said in the session wouldn't have mattered, the only thing she would accept is a divorce.

2 days later she came over we packed more of her stuff up, she took some stuff with her and said she would rent a moving truck to get the rest. We pretty much had everything figured out of who gets what.

She agreed to sell engagement ring and pay off our bills with it, we agreed to sell time share, and agreed on what to do with tax return.

I asked her to change her last name back, because I didn't want her to have my last name while being with other men. She was upset at first because she said she wanted to have same last name as S, but she agreed to it.

I also told her I would pick up and drop of S on my days off and she could no longer stay at house in mornings, because it wasn't fair to continue to go on like that.

I probably shouldn't have made that decision, because I see my S less, but I feel its less confusing to S to wake up at my house and expect to see his mother there.

The day prior I had gone out to dinner with a female friend, W asked me "How did your date go?" I told her it wasn't a date, that she is just a friend, and I am not ready to date yet. W said same thing that she didn't want to date anyone yet, but she is very curious about dating, and her friend from work keeps asking to set her up.

I feel I am in LRT mode at full speed. Even though the other day when she came over I felt she "used" me to vent to. I am not sure if I should continue to let her do that, or even cut that off.

the dilemma is: Do I let her vent and see she can still talk to me and trust me, or cut it off and hope she misses venting to me.

Either way I won't initiate any conversation anymore when we see each other.