Don't offer your W more time to see the kids like you did. Make her ask for it. Otherwise it is pursuing. Good if she's having a hard time not seeing the kids. Welcome to a splintered family life.
When she was sick you were good not to offer. I did the same thing. They need to feel what it's like to be a single parent without being bailed out.
They get pissed when you don't act the same because you're basically pissing on their plans and what they think reality is. But beware, they will turn everything against you. If you go out and GAL they will say you don't care. If you don't GAL they will say you should get a life. If you offer her more time with the kids she'll think it's because you want to see her. If you don't offer her more time with the kids she'll think you don't care about her.
About 5 months after I got the ILYBIDLY speech my family had a reunion in Florida. At the last minute I booked a flight for myself to go down. At the time she couldn't wait to get me out of the house and away from her so she was more than supportive. A few months later she rewrote it as me being selfish and spending money we didn't have, blah, blah, blah. It's just typical script.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
