How Do You Stop Driving Yourself Crazy

[steady]

Steady another thing I need to mention and not sure if this applied to your sitch. One reason W asked me to move out is she has extreme anxiety and IMHO depression. Defintely anxiety. She thought if I moved out it would go away. 1 month later she still has very bad bouts of anxiety. What I'm getting at is I can DB until I am blue in the face but if W does not get help nothing will work. I am correct no.

My ex has chronic anxiety and had it even before me met. Her wanting to be out of the M and us living in the house together at the time was driving her anxiety through the roof. She still has chronic anxiety. She's got other mental health problems and if she were to turn around today and say she wanted to get back together I would tell her no. She hasn't changed and is still the same.

So yeah, as you change and improve, if your W doesn't get help it won't work. You are not the source of her anxiety or her depression. Mine tried to blame me for hers. Not sure if your W is doing the same.