Getting Better??

[sleeper]

They are nothing but Id. It's all about them. This may be why so many justify leaving with what sounds trivial. We and/or the marriage were not PERFECTLY filling THEIR needs. Could that be a contributing factor in the fact that second and third marriages have increasingly higher divorce rates? Our failure to make them happy is a dealbreaker in their self centered world. Several times post separation but pre divorce X became unhappy with my choices/refusal to meet her demands. In a fit of anger she would scream at me, "This is why we're getting a divorce"! I didn't see the dysfunction that was reflected by her comments until reading your post (thank you).

OW may be happy now but it probabably won't last. I'm beginning to see fraying around the edges of X and OMH's relationship. That giddy, feel good, honeymoon, he's perfect time doesn't last forever.