"Let's be friends"...now that is a topic that I always shake my head on. When my xh began his little moment of clarity 5 1/2 after he ran away, the first thing that popped up in his email was that he had a number of divorced friends and that they were good friends w/their ex-spouses. I pointed out that in many cases the exes had to be friendly because of children and other financial commitments. I pointed out that people can't be friends when one spouses acts like a total @ss and carries on as a monster after leaving and besides, we had no children and no financial commitments together. Friends, I don't think so. My exh and I are not friends, but I treat him just as I would anyone else...pleasant...nothing more.
It's all about what they want and when they want it. Appearances mean everything to them and they want us to play along and oh, yes, be on your "ps" and "qs"...when they are nice, they most likely want something. At least, that is what I have discovered w/my xh.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
