As snodderly said, no marriage is going to be perfect. I think marriage is one of the hardest jobs in life. But, the rewards should offset the hard work. So many people are only looking for the rewards. If you got paid a weekly wage for staying married, would people work better to stay married?
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Fwiw I have come to believe one reason why so many remain stuck is not down to anything we have done or failed to do, but to their own inability to face the destruction, which has gone far beyond the marriage.
I agree with Beatrice, the destruction goes far beyond the relationship of being husband and wife. Depending on how the LBS handled the mlc'r, so many other people/friends/family have been affected as well.
My H has not said 'gee sorry', nor verbalized what he did and how it drug us down. I do think that as we continue to heal us, that conversation will still come to us. I'm not necessarily looking forward to that time, I think we will hurt again, and then grow forward.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
