So this Myrtle beach trip I could expect some back lash.
What my counselor was saying is I should have never early on told my wife that if there was an A it would me instant over. I told her this long ago before we even had issues. Counselor said by me stating that if my W did happen to have an A she would be afraid to tell me even if she wanted to R. Make sense? It just seems the way she is treating me there maybe a slight possibility of EA or PA going on now.
Also i'm readying DR and really seems like lots of the techniques are geared toward the spouse that is still in the house. Am I wrong? I am not 1/2 through it yet but that is what I am getting. Good info to have if I was still at home.
Also seems her DR examples are about spouses that leave the house because they are unhappy. In my case I was asked to leave the house because of the damage I created in the marriage. MWD talks about the spouse moving back and giving 2nd chance. In my case I would have to be asked to move back. It is so hard not talking about the R at all.
Originally Posted By: netmaster
Something that happened this weekend..
Perfect real life example. Me and W are suppose to have a parenting schedule but be flexible. In other words if the kids are having a tough time we will have flex so either parent can see the kids. Last weekend was her weekend and I got to see the kids a little bit because son was asking to see me etc.. This weekend was my weekend. My W was apparently having lots of trouble being away from the kids because I have them Wed overnight, Thursday she fell ill so I had them again overnight, and then it happened to be my weekend. So that is 4 overnights without her seeing them that much. She admitted to extreme angst the last 3 days. I'm sure it was because of this but no clue. I offered to let her take son to activity today. She turned it down. I offered for her to spend some time with the kids today and she turned it down. I truly wasn't trying to pursue her but show her the same respect and flexibility she has given me. Why would she allow me to come to her house and see kids on non parent weekend but not take me up on it. I didn't question her declines. I just said that is ok. That is tough for me to swallow a bit. Almost like she is proving she can make it a whole weekend without seeing them. I know I struggle not seeing them. Anyways now I'm thinking offering that time with the kids was wrong to do.
