I don't think it's a question of "enough remorse". the question is - what is fireman doing about the situation *now* to *fix* it.
fireman, get the "Divorce Remedy" book and read it through. it should be available at bookstores or your public library. also, if you can take some sessions with a "Divorcebusting" coach that is also highly recommended.
do *not* feel that "all is lost". sometimes couples can get back together even at the 11th hr. but you need to know the right way to do it! if you want your wife back, you must become the man that only a fool would leave!
there are some good ideas in Kaffe Diem's post. also read the DR book and talk to a coach, and see how it can change your life!
