DB'ing is sooooo hard (part 2)

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Hey Rick!

Really glad the day ended so much better for you than when it started. I guess the emotional roller coaster is running round the clock these days.

I really like some of the helpful ideas that Bklyn posted for your consideration. Hopefully you can find a way to incorporate some of these ideas.

I'm a little mixed though on the best approach for how to work with your W and her emotional crisis. Part of me thinks that she needs a lot of space. Like maybe she needs to go away for awhile or you need to go away just so she feels free to figure things out for herself without the daily reminder of her problems.

My other thought is that while you may need to be there for her, maybe it needs to be way back in the shadows, if you know what I mean. Sort of like, let her know she has a life line to you if she needs it but fade into the background, doing your own thing and give her time and plenty of space. You are in such a delicate situation it is hard to really say what will work best for you.

Regarding all the crap you've been dealing with in the last year, good grief! I'm surprised you have been able to hold it together as well as you have, all things considered.

I guess the old adage is true, what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger.

Hang in there!