Your H is conflicted -- that's good news! My W said she wanted a D and that was not up for discussion. She didn't kiss me for a long time after that and wouldn't let me hug her at all, I had to go with "butterfly touches" as that's all I could get away with, it was BRUTAL! The fact that he's kissing you and telling you he loves you is great! The fact that you're laughing together is great, that's the best thing you can do right now.
Continue your GAL activities, vent here on the board, do your best not to pursue, and be happy and fun to be around when H is present. You are making progress, you're doing a great job with DB. Keep it up!
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015