... I just expected her to say I'm sorry it was an accident lets work out this marriage when I confronted her (which was early December) and am still struggling with the fact she didn't respond like that!
Yeah... wouldn't THAT be nice... we're all waiting for our spouses to say that...
Originally Posted By: Denton
She said she 'killed' her friendship with him on the 16th December which I'm starting to believe is true, it wasn't an A that would go anywhere
It is reasonable that you may have SOME doubt and will obsess over this and possibly even snoop. Do your best not to.
What you WANT to do is become a fantastic Denton by ridding yourself of negative behaviours and building better and new positive behaviours so that only a fool would leave you... hopefully your W won't be that fool.
Originally Posted By: Denton
Kinda doing LRT at the moment...
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Doing the GAL...
Awesome! Keep doing this. Eventually (if she hasn't already) your W WILL notice. This could take a couple weeks or so, so be observant if your W seems to remain distant or further distances herself, or if your W appears to be more interested in you and what you are doing...
Understand, this could first come out as anger. She might give you the scripts of "you are only doing this because I was leaving you" or telling you she doesn't believe them or you are trying to live a lie...
Put on your flame proof suit, just in case and work on your detachment so you don't react IF she spews at you.
Keep us posted. Journal here, let us know what you are doing, and let us know if your W has any positive or negative reactions.
