My W took off today in such a bad state which lead to my postings this afternoon. I got a nice text from her just now that gives me hope that she and then maybe we, can pull out of this.
Her - "I needed this day to think. I appreciate your patience and understanding. I know this is not easy. I have a lot to confront, sort out, deal with. I need to get my life organized and simplified. I need to let go of worry and fear. I need to grow up in many ways. I am doing the best I can."
Me - " You have anything from me that you need."
I know her. I need to keep the squirrel metaphor in mind. She can be quite skittish if I approach her in a big way or get too verbal which overwhelms her. I dont want to scare her back into her crisis mode. So, I quietly offer her support by my actions and let her state of mind lead the way.
Her texting me like this gives me some hope that she can conquer this in the right environment, and I'm part of the right environment I think. I think I need to take Brklyn's advise and keep my days simple so that I will not burn out. I keep thinking that if this roller coaster is so tough on me then it must be way tougher on her because she's the one in the crisis, and she risked losing her H and family in the process. Very, very tough for her.
