Yay on the shopping! I could use some retail therapy, but since I'm trying so save money, a thrift store might work (All three of my CCs are at ZERO balance - pretty proud of that)
Im really happy for you. Doing the 'mundane' stuff (cooking, sitting doing 'nothing' together IE: reading is the most bonding stuff of an R IMO (even more than sex)\ Not even gonna touch why he didn't stay for dinner. Your 'huge' good thing overshadows that by a longshot! OW or no OW, if he didn't want to be with you today, he would have gone elsewhere regardless.
And KUDOS to you leaving to GAL even though things were going so well with him. I know I would have had a really tough time leaving him then if I were in your shoes. But GALing then was THE most effective thing you could have done, because you balanced it with some real quality time where you showed him interest and interest in 'his' stuff too.
Congrats on a huge step forward and I hope you have a great sat nite
My saturday night has consisted of: pillow fighting with my boys, making grilled cheese sandwiches and having a picnic dinner while we watched Dolphin Tale (I still cry every time that little girls gets out of the van!), watching my baby run around the house naked after his bath, piling up in my bed with both boys to read bedtime stories, having them fall asleep on either side of me, and catching up on a few threads here (still got more to do!)
Things I noticed as I reflected on my day: * H made up the guest bed this morning- he NEVER, EVER did that before, even to our own bed all these years!! Why now??????
* H has brought up my trip a few times today. He first asked: "What am I going to tell S6? I mean, you don't have to tell me exactly where you're going, but it would be easier if I could just tell him that you were visiting someone." and then he brought it up again while we were playing with his truck: "Are you getting excited about your trip?" I told him it is bittersweet, and changed the subject... he didn't ask anymore.Why so interested in my trip?? Why ask if I'm excited?? Does he think I should be doing cartwheels because I have to leave town to get away from the pain he's causing me?!?!
* H left tonight and S6 asked him where he was going (this is the first time S6 ever did that). H answered that he was going out with {old friend who was in town for the weekend-who is a guy that ADORES me and H together}... H was well aware that I could hear this conversation. **I've noticed that when H is going to OW's house, that he avoids explanations or gives very vague responses, but he has no problems giving details when his plans don't involve her.... I know that I shouldn't analyze and think over H's words and actions... but this makes me feel good that he isn't going to her place tonight
Ok, back to responding to all you wonderful people who came to my post today!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Your H is curious! Let him be! Mystery is good It's none of his business where you're going. He used the 'what should I tell S6' question as a lure. Don't give in. It'll be good for him to wonder about what you're doing. He can tell your son that mommy is on vacation. Details aren't needed.
M & H 25 T 9 D 7 S 4 Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me. Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out 2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other. 3-4-12 H moved back in. 3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done
Before dbmod gets upset.... I'm going to start a new thread... I didn't notice that the numbers jumped up so quickly!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
