Hey LITB, figured I would post this on your thread since we've had this convo...
The whole Love as feeling vs. action / choice thing...
I've been trying to put my finger on it. Things like how a baby feels loved or a parent loves a child... if we were to look at the chemical aspect of bonding, is love really a choice? Or is it actually some fundamental feeling and need for the human condition?
Love "just happens"... is it really a choice...?
I've been reading 5LL and find it quite interesting. And the author writes something that I found quite profound.
People talk often about love from a perspective of TO someone. Without a doubt, in that context, love is a choice, and then an action...
But how often do we really thing of love from a FROM perspective? It doesn't quite read right, but it just splits it as TO (away from us) and FROM (towards us).
As the Chapman states, psychologists generally state love as a basic, human NEED. This led me to consider... why do we NEED to be loved? Is it simply the act of being loved (using 5LL as an example) what is necessary? Or is it actually because with those actions, we truly FEEL love or loved?
I remain resolved that love is a feeling and I agree with psychologists that it is a basic human need. It is that we can only share love through actions... we cannot directly transfer the FEEL of love to another in any other way than by actions...
