This is a question that I've had floating in my head for a while now. My wife removed her wedding ring during our separation. My pastor told me to ignore that as a symptom of the sitch. She's still not wearing it, but she is wearing another of the rings I bought for on that finger. It could be mistaken as a wedding band(gold and diamonds).
I'm not trying to fish for hope, but does that mean she might have reservations about all of this (a sign of doubt)? Seems to me like if she were trying to announce to the world that she was unattached or was ending a marriage, this wouldn't be the way to do it.
Anyway, I think it's an honest question, would love thoughts on it. Thanks.
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Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12
Your pastor is correct and I'm sure you know that.
My W took off the wedding band and then began wearing her grandmother's band. What did that mean? It meant what ever it meant, to her... maybe she liked the ring and it fit on that finger. maybe she was remembering her grandmother. maybe she didn't want to go out in the world as though she were single. maybe it was to show me that she felt unmarried to me but also unavailable to me... maybe she wore it to show her EA that she was unavailable to any other...
You are unlikely to get an answer that is satisfactory, if you were so bold enough to ask her.
Best you can do is ignore it... or at least assume it means nothing specifically, about you...
Thanks, KD. Sometimes a dose of reality is what is needed. I wouldn't ask her about it, would either start something or make her remove it. Neither one is something I want to be responsible for! lol
Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12
