How Do You Stop Driving Yourself Crazy

[steady]

Steady I've read your thread on detaching and it is absolutely awesome.

I have a question. Is there a fine line between detaching and being a d*ckhead. Reason I ask is there is certain things I still do for the kids. Put son on bus every day is one. Sometimes when its not my day with kids she will ask me to bring son to scheduled activity because he really wants Dad to take him. If I say no my kids suffer. That is the fine line I'm working with right now.

Do everything you need to do for your kids.

I used to use a pretty simple yardstick when I wasn't sure if I was being a doormat. Ask yourself why you would do it. If the answer is you are doing it so your W will, like you, come back, forgive you, react in some way, etc... then you're not doing it for the right reason and you're just trying to control the situation.