Done lurking, need advice.

[labug]

And as is often said here, DB is more about saving yourself than saving your marriage. Sometimes marriages are saved but that's not a given. Rick is right, unless you truly look at your place in the break-up and work to change what you own in that break-up, you will repeat the same behaviors in your next relationship.

Now is the most difficult part, really looking at what your part was and changing those things for you. It's not easy but it might just change your life.