Thanks for replying, yeah I realise I'm getting the standard responses from her after a lot of reading, I just expected her to say I'm sorry it was an accident lets work out this marriage when I confronted her (which was early December) and am still struggling with the fact she didn't respond like that!
She said she 'killed' her friendship with him on the 16th December which I'm starting to believe is true, it wasn't an A that would go anywhere - he is 24 and lives at home with his Mum and Dad! and I am 99.9% sure it was only an EA not a PA based on the text messages I read, it may possibly have developed into an PA BUT I get the impression from talking to my wife that she doesn't think it was an A because it didn't get sexual. If it had I wouldn't be trying to save the marriage - that would of been to far!
Kinda doing LRT at the moment, only see her on Sundays for our chat and Tuesdays for MC. Yep know about detachment, thats whats helped me get this far and I still have a long way to go because I was completely dependent on her and she was on me for many years until she went back to work.
Doing the GAL, hence lunch with friends, reconnecting with my Brother, Kickboxing, these are all things I didn't do before. Trying to work on 180's done some naturally, like GAL,leaving her alone and stop persuing her, trying to be happy when I see her, on Sunday night I'm not going to talk about the relationship unless she brings it up. Going to keep trying to work out more.
