WAW told me she doesn't want to be married pt3

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IMHO, You sound pretty ungrateful. Your family offered to pay for your car, you should be happy. So what if they didn't do it earlier? It's not like you made a big fuss about it before.
Oh don't get me wrong Mr. Bond, if I don't take the job with Aetna I will take the assistance from my family. It was just the timing like everything. My family always tries to fix the problem by throwing money at it. Even at times when the money is not there.

I don't know if you notice it or not, but you're making your W seem like a saint and your family is the enemy. Hate to tell you this, but your W is gone and your family is still there trying to help you. Forget about the past, this is what's going on right now. In fact, if you were really that unhappy in your sitch with your family, you would have done something about it rather than letting your W nag you about it.
My family at this time feels guilty and they have told me this for my situation. There have been times in the past that we have done really well and somehow my brother has screwed it up. The company is a mortgage company we fought back after the Sh!t hit the fan. One of the banks we sold loans too required us to have a type of insurance policy. We were doing well. One of the heads of the bank was at a conventionand met the insurance company that we were "supposed" to have the policy with. They never heard of us and the following Monday we were cut off. Because my brother decided not to do the policy. He thought he could cut some corners. We almost shut down then as well.

Even if it was to get some professional C about how to deal with family issues, you would have done something about it if it really bothered you. Your family seems to be doing these things for you with the best intentions. You are just "perceiving" them to be negative.
Its funny I love my family don't get me wrong., BUT it sometimes feels like the outsiders who come in are not treated as wel at times. My mpother has talked about my brother in law behind my sisters back and I am sure she has bad mouthed my W in the past. Its awkward.

"Families answer to everything throw money at it make it go away and all will be better. "

Not true. They are probably doing that because they don't know what else to do. Why don't you actually THANK them and say "I really appreciate it, but I think I have a handle on things." A little humility makes everyone happy. And your mom won't have to stress so much.

I have turned money down in the past and it gets forced upon me. They asked me for my bday what did I want. I told them nothing I ended up with a playstation 3. It sat on the floor for about 3 weeks then I watched netflix on it fto pass the time. It still sits its a $400 paper weight. Unless my kids are here and they play Cars 2.
If I had my own place and another job I would not see them as much and maybe feel better about them. Right now I dislike my family. I know they want me to be happy and if they could talk some sense into my W they would. But right now I am not at the point that I want to be around them. Its from working everyday with them hearing the arguments in the office and fighting during the holidays between my brother and sister. If my sister says the suns out my brother says no there are clouds in the sky. Its a sad way to be right now and I know if my father was alive he would not have any of it.

Is my wife a Saint. No but at the time this was all going down I had her on a pedastal. Which she always asked about. I told her your my wife you married me and gave me kids I have to have you up on a pedastal. Now not so much. But I still want to reconcile to see if this can be worked out and improved upon. I am a different person more head strong and more aggressive. In my past I never fought back against anyting I just took it. When playing sports in my neighborhood I would play goalie in street hockey. If my friends started yelling at me caue I let in a goal and I didn;t want to deal with it I would take the pads off and walk home. I should have argued then and yelled at my team. Nope just turned and walked away. I no longer walk away.