WHG: Chasing that rabbit with the pocketwatch

[workinghardguy]

@OT... I do plan to parent at my house 90% of the time I'd say. Realistically we will be here until 8:30 or so then would head over to her house to put the kids to bed. By the time I get the little ones down and then get SS shepherded to bed it will be the time she arrives home from work.

For a while I had entertained the idea of doing it at her house, but a) seeing her personal life for hours on end is not something I want to deal with and b) the perception that I might be doing it with all the time on my hands wouldn't be good.

We had discussed having me stay over there if she worked night shifts, but I said no... I don't want to sleep at her house. Any overnights and the kids can stay with me at my place.

As far as the message sending... You're right of course. I'm just growing so very tired of her trying to guilt me into doing things that we've already agreed were hard boundaries. Money for rent, money for appliances, certain house items, now moving help... We agree and then when that isn't working in her favor she knows the buttons to push to get me to react. But now when those buttons don't work she gets angry and pissy with me. I understand the reaction... I just don't appreciate it,