l2l, I don't know if I'm really any long term separation, but having been physically separated for 15 months...

I've tossed the idea around. Although I've been no where near being able to have any kind of stable R. Truly though, I could make it for quite some time, yet...

That doesn't mean that I haven't gone places or hung out with members of the opposite sex. Just nothing even remotely romantic or intimate... Just lunch, or coffee, a drink or two sharing war stories...

I've heard it said this way and I'd agree... You'll know when you're ready.

In my case, I figured when I was ready to start dating... I was ready to file...