The fact that your defect is left to right is good, not bad. It means things have not gone too far yet b/c when they shift the other way-worse. If you still have no pulmonary hypertension--excellent. Thanks for checking with your H. One correction, my defect IS a right to left, with a 3.1% pressure increase over the left side. As far as the pulmonary hypertension, they still can't say because they have to do the catheterization to physically see the valve/artery... my doc is trying to see if they can combine the hole repair and the 'investigation' at the same time so I don't have to do this twice- fingers crossed!!
As for your h--ANY h would be relieved to know you are not dying. Fact is, if you were dying, crass as it sounds, it helps him IF HE WERE THAT TYPE OF MAN, which he's not... this actually made me kinda laugh I'm sure any WAH would 'like' it if their W died- makes their guilt go away and moving on a lot easier!
Meanwhile, remember this is a chance to show your h, again, the NEW YOU... It's actually the 'new me' to have him come to appointments with me. For some stupid reason, I used to think that being stoic and dealing with things on my own was some way better than behaving like an invalid or always asking for help... hence the reason my H grew to think that he was never needed in my life.
Keep being strong and brave! ((( ))) I always appreciate hugs! And it's very comforting to know that there are people out there who care!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
I'm sure any WAH would 'like' it if their W died- makes their guilt go away and moving on a lot easier! 
