Question..... Why do you think pursuing is controlling in this situation? You say she wants space or she'll think you're trying to control the situation but that you also didn't pay her any attention, make her feel loved, etc.
I'm asking this because I'm wondering if going dark and accepting things how they flow is a 180 from you or more of the same?
Have you ever romanced her? Sounds like she feels you got into the relationship and marriage without any effort on your part? Which maybe makes her feel unvalued?
Me - 38, 2nd M, no living children, 1 forever 6 yr old boy H - 44, 3rd M, twins 16
Dating 4/07 M 10/08 Bomb #1 12/10 Bomb #2 1/11 Bomb #3 12/11
