You have been on this path once. Understand that when your W talked about reconciling, she did it when she felt needy. That's a roller coaster. Dont attach your feelings on them. Or you will regret them.
Grow stronger by yourself as a person. As a dad. Right now you are going through the hurt of losing a partner, friend etc. You need to get to a point where you are at peace with your issues and figure out a way to improve yourself. The rest will fall into place.
When my wife file for D last year, i was in the same boat emotionally as you. One year later when wife is talking about reconciling, I am now not too keen on it because i am happy now with where i am and i dont see any positive development in her. If the status quo does not change, no point getting back.
Accept what is and try to make your life happier and better. I know that right now lost of crazy thoughts will be running through the head. what about future, what about son's future, will be grow up okay etc. One suggestion i have is to give these thoughts a holiday for a while. I gave myself 1 year before i let all these crazy thoughts bother me. Lot of crazy stuff happened during this time. I let them all go. Now when i look back, none of the crazy looking stuff mattered. Giving yourself that time will lift an emotional burden you do not need right now.
good luck!
Karma, thank you for responding, just looking at your signature, we have a very similiar path. So your D is not final yet? If you do see growth would you consider reconciling with your W? I am going to get caught up on your thread if you have one, it may help me.
Thansk
Blessings,
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
