m422 - thanks for reading and answering - It always makes us feel better to know that someone understands and has shared a similar experience. That doesn't justify my angry reaction, but I am turning the page now.

25 - as always, thank you for your help. As you can see, H did blast me and I can totally see why.

So I responded as you suggested, just leaving out the work part. I know that convo is coming up again soon, so I am keeping your suggestions very handy for when that time comes.

I am learning so much from your writing style and will re-read this post often. You are neutral, factual, not angry and most importantly, you show understanding, kindness and growth. Thanks for teaching me that.

Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D