2nd Thread - After almost 1 year, I keep going

[25yearsmlc]

you did well.

But his expectations of you remain unrealistic-, the Superwoman (now single) who can mother 3 SMALL children while working at a 6 figure job (those are never 40 hour weeks unless you are an MD and even then...)

and still blame you for being tempermental/resentful while pregnant or post partum...Don't go there again.

hey I wonder what OW earns?

Surely SHE can help, right? I'm serious...HE will or already has other sources of income, you only have him.

So, what does YOUR L say? If you have not seen one, I am sending a gentle slap through the computer and saying "GET ONE ASAP"...

there...I said it. Assuming you have seen one, what do they say?

Well done w/your reaction of "I disagree" -it is perfect. He can't argue with it. You can also agree to disagree...

but even though I think you CAN assume the best of him, you have to prepare for the worst...

and he MAY be worrying about money. I suspect, regretfully, that he is hoping you'll let him off the hook with CS payments by earning nearly or more than he does...

do right by your kids and you'll have no regrets.

It's not really about money for you; it's about time with your children.

When I wanted to go back to work, my IC suggested that I Not.

NOT MY L, my IC! (L said the court would "impute" some income to me, but less than I usually earned-and that earning more did not help me. I could earn more later...).

IC said "your kids already lost one parent, why make them deal with another parental loss?"

with a 6 month old and 2 kids <4, no way would I work full time EVEN IF MY H were still with me....

I did the full time working deal w/workaholic h in medical training, with 2 kids and had great day care. I crashed physically and was hospitalized-God's way of saying "enough already"...

And I regret what I missed. ONly when our 3rd came, years later, did I stay at home. Thank GOD...

You can work more later, but you can't mother more later.

Just my .02