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Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4 purgatory #2216385 01/27/12 06:47 PM
Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 92 J JamesG Member
JamesG Member J Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 92	Originally Posted By: purgatory My brain likes to play conversations and interactions over and over again, looking for positives or changes.... Someone make it stop! Purg, I have put myself in this position too many times to count. We LBS want our WAS to return so desperately that we interpret every word and interaction with a hopeful eye. It is maddening. Notice it but don't but too much stock in it. I wish I knew how to stop it. My best guess is that you have to let go of putting your feelings in his hands. You are doing what you are doing to (1) build a new M/R with your H on a new foundation or (2) build a new relationship with a different person when the one with your WAS ends. Either way you are doing that by working on YOU not him. Personally, I feel like my self-esteem takes a hit every time I put myself out there on behalf of the M/R and my WAW doesn't respond or says she still wants a D. Congratulations on your weight loss. Your H's physical desires will likely always have him interested in you (that is one of the reasons the two of you got into a R in the first place, and, he's a man). For some men, and I have seen this written about on the forum, there is no problem with walking away and at the same time continuing have a physical relationship with the LBS. Is that right? No. But, IMO, the man is thinking with his member not his heart and he certainly isn't thinking about your emotions. In fact, IMO, if the two of you were to have a physical interaction, he probably would be thinking that you are alright with the state of your R as it currently stands. (BTW, I don't think he is covering you up, I think he is flirting and checking to see if the door is open to a physical interaction.) Originally Posted By: purgatory I will continue down my path of looking better to feel better about myself. That little part of me would be glad to know that he's seeing what he's gonna miss Absolutely. Keep GALing for YOU alone.

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Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/21/12 11:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 02:22 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/22/12 02:30 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:11 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/22/12 04:24 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/22/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/22/12 06:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/22/12 05:09 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/22/12 07:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 08:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/22/12 08:55 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/23/12 01:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/23/12 01:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 03:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/23/12 05:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/23/12 10:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Hopeful321	01/23/12 12:45 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/23/12 01:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/23/12 02:13 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	stillhopin	01/23/12 08:32 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/23/12 11:14 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 01:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/24/12 02:50 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 03:07 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 05:03 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:27 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 12:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 12:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/24/12 01:16 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/24/12 03:28 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 03:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Autumn Leaves	01/24/12 03:53 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Rick1963	01/24/12 04:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 05:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Crimson	01/24/12 06:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 06:15 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 07:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/24/12 07:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/24/12 08:24 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/24/12 09:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/24/12 10:01 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 12:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 03:39 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/25/12 03:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:32 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 08:04 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/25/12 01:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 04:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 05:05 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 04:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/25/12 05:02 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/25/12 07:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/25/12 09:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/25/12 09:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:15 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	nhmom	01/26/12 02:29 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 03:16 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/26/12 03:23 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 03:37 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/26/12 04:54 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	WenikiTiki	01/26/12 07:17 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 12:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/26/12 01:18 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/26/12 01:19 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 02:30 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/26/12 04:22 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 09:00 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/26/12 09:50 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/26/12 10:03 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 12:36 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:18 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/27/12 01:28 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	mr mr	01/27/12 01:59 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 03:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 12:51 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:33 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 01:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/27/12 02:37 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 03:12 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 06:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	JamesG	01/27/12 06:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 10:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/27/12 10:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/27/12 11:25 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/27/12 11:47 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/27/12 11:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 02:45 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	ces67	01/28/12 02:51 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 03:49 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 04:13 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 04:56 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:12 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 01:46 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/28/12 03:39 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/28/12 03:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Grmpy_Mnky	01/28/12 03:58 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	25yearsmlc	01/28/12 05:06 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:07 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	labug	01/28/12 05:17 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:10 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 06:48 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 10:56 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BFloat	01/28/12 11:44 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	sayitaintso	01/28/12 11:54 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/29/12 12:10 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Oneeleven	01/29/12 12:20 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:31 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	Jenna333	01/29/12 02:40 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/29/12 02:52 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	dbmod	01/31/12 12:25 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	keep_going	01/28/12 06:19 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/28/12 01:36 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	BklynMom	01/28/12 01:42 PM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	kolja	01/22/12 04:02 AM
Re: Too Little, Too Late.... part 4	purgatory	01/22/12 04:13 AM

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