labug- thanks for checking in on me It's a sobering reminder of how long this journey is- to hear you say that it's taken 10 months for you to get to a 'good detachment'... I'm 8 months behind you. I have a feeling that I'll be able to detach A LOT more when he's gone to AFG, until then, I will do my best.
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I've been thinking about going to an Alanon meeting (as suggested by several people on the boards) I looked up the meeting times/places... the only time and place that coordinates with my custody arrangements- is at a church located 3 blocks from OW's house. How's that for temptation?!?! I imagine it would be the same temptation if an AA meeting was located near a bar.
I honestly don't know if I am clear headed enough not to do a drive by every time I go to a meeting, which defeats the purpose! I really want to join a meeting to find the support that other's on here have said they've received from Alanon.
When I was at the bookstore last night, I looked at several Alanon books- including one called Discovering Choices.... it's all about detachment.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12