In the newbies section, there is a sticky about abbreviations. It's probably easier for you to read through that list than for us to try to hit them all here, in this thread.
Please try to understand that your W is hurting right now and probably wishes that her world hadn't just got flipped upside down. She will likely be very firm and committed to the idea that "it is over" for some time to come.
Eventually, both parties will start to think about the "what ifs" and whether it might be a good idea to at least discuss second chances and work on the M. She will get there. Hopefully she will give you a second chance...
But in the mean time, if you believe it is over, than make it over. But if you have even a smidgen of hope, then it's time to buckle up and get to work...
on yourself...
on PROVING you can be trusted, by being completely transparent about your life to your W.
And working on yourself to be a much better man and husband...
She will likely have moments of extreme anger at you. Understand that she needs to get this out of her system. DO NOT defend yourself. Affirm her feelings are valid and understandable.
Do get the Divorce Remedy book and read it. All the information is in the book that can help you work through this and hopefully you can rebuild your M.
We will always be here on this board to help you through this process, but the book really spells it out in detail, how you can possibly turn this around.
