Tad, I'm glad you returned to post an update. Congratulations on moving into your new place...it sounds wonderful. It's nice to know that you can now decorate it anyway you want and the ghosts of your past are now in every room.
As for dating, just as long as you treat your dating partner right, things will be okay. Don't make promises that you can't keep.
Now about your xw, she continues on her crazy path and is still trying to control and manipulate you. Is she beginning to see what she's done? I seriously doubt it. She's still out there and will be for quite some time. What I do see from your posting is that she is one miserable woman and wants you in the same boat w/her. That boat is called misery. Stop worrying about what she says...it's not worth it. She has made her bed, now let her stay in it. You did not cause her problems, therefore, you can't fix them. These people think that the grass is greener over on the other side of the fence, but once they jump the fence, they find out that it's nothing but artificial turf. Tune her out...she is now an "x" not a current wife.
Live your life to the fullest and enjoy yourself. Be true to yourself and to your children...that is all that matters now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
